They will then get stuck in analysis paralysis instead of coming to a decision. That’s because the more they think about the topic, the more they are going to overthink and catastrophize the situation. Come back to the topic a few days later when they are more neutral. Sometimes, when people ask me for advice and I see that they are too emotionally charged on the topic, I ask them to take a break and focus on something else. But you are not open to helpful advice, solutions, and possibilities. Or when you are fearful, you are drawn to news and information that paints a bad outlook. That’s why when people are in a bad relationship, everyone else can see how destructive the relationship is for them but they can’t. It’s not a good time to make an important decision w hen you are emotionally charged. You will ignore any information and red flags that opposes your beliefs and readily accept any information that validates what you believe. Even when you are presented with good advice or information that will help you make a better decision, you are not going to hear it.
You will tend to be too optimistic or too pessimistic. If you are heavily charged in favor or against a choice, your decision-making process is most likely to be skewed. To make a sound decision, make sure you are neutral and calm first.
Without any awareness, we either follow our emotional impulses or let our emotions run our thought process. But most of us don’t take a moment to check in with our emotions before we make a decision. When we are emotionally charged, we tend to make impulsive or bad decisions we later regret. Or they felt extremely lonely, they met someone in the bar and quickly developed a relationship with the person, only to find out the person treats them badly and is not right for them. For instance, they panicked when they saw the stock market plunging and they sold their stock hastily at a loss, only to find out the stock price bounced back after a few days. People make bad choices when they are too emotional. Make sure you are calm before you make any decision.
#Difficult decisions how to#
How to Make a Difficult Decision in Life, Relationship, and Work 1. We care so much about what others think of us that we end up overthinking the situation and go against our natural desire. We are afraid of making a decision that is unpopular and unsupported by others. But what we are unaware of is underneath this concern for others is our own egoic need to avoid being perceived negatively by others. Or rather, what we believe or assume other people might think of us if we make a particular choice.
We don’t realize our indecisiveness is mostly due to external perception. But on a social level, we don’t want to hurt and disappoint others, get blamed and shamed for making the wrong choices, or be perceived as a failure or selfish. We don’t want to do something we later regret. On a personal level, we are indecisive because we are afraid of making mistakes. Or if you want to leave your partner and get a divorce, you might be afraid that your children will be hurt in the process. For example, if your family depends on you financially and you want to pursue your dreams, you might be hesitant to do so. Your Choice Affects Other PeopleĪnother reason why it’s so difficult for some of us to make a choice is that our decision affects people around us and we want to take them into consideration. Even if you have decided on a path, there will still be some lingering thoughts in the background, wondering what will happen if you have chosen the other path. They must align with each other and be in complete unison. To make a good decision, both your head and your heart have to be considered and not brushed aside. Your heart tells you to go one way but your head tells you to go the other way. But if you just follow your mind, you feel unfulfilled like something is missing. If you choose to follow your heart, you are afraid of making an impulsive or emotional choice that you later regret. When your head and heart are in disagreement, it’s difficult to come to a decision. Or in the matter of love, you found someone that you are attracted to but you don’t think he is right for you. For example, your heart calls you to do something you love for a living but your head tells you it’s better to find a career with a stable income. Oftentimes, we struggle to make a decision because there is a conflict between the head and the heart. Why Is It So Tough to Make a Decision? Your Head and Heart Are in Disagreement
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